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This young lady stood up to the Taliban so that girls would have the right to an education.

They boarded a school bus and shot her in the head.

She survived!

Now, through all of this abuse and violence that she has had to deal with in her life….she “wants to serve the people and make sure that every person has the ability to get an education.” That girls and women have the right to be free and be equal!

May we all strive to be like this 15 year old girl.

Thank You Malala.  THANK YOU!

When I was a kid I would come home and tell my parents someone beat me up and I was asked…what did you do wrong.

I’m an adult…and my child comes home (knowing my child has mental disabilities) and says he got hit by another boy. Being a boy, and knowing how boy socialization works, I ask him what did he do wrong.

One sounds careless to the victims feelings. One sounds intelligent sounding…yet also careless to the victims feelings. Even though I know that when a boy walks up to another boy and the 2nd boy doesn’t move, the next thing is going to be, “what’s your problem?”, a push, a hit, and a fight. Is this the correct way of acting…NO!  Is this ok…NO!  However, every boy will tell you it’s normal.  The problem is how it is handled – the victim is made to be the person who is in the wrong.

The victim is never the person in the wrong!!!  This is very hard to understand to our world where we constantly ask the victim: What did you do to make this happen.

This is even worse when it is a DV victim. They asked the person to love them, and the person decided to hurt them.

Just like my son asked to be able to be on the sidewalk at that moment and the other boy decided to hurt him.

Just like I only asked to be left alone to humm while I did my work, and another boy decided to punch me.

All three the victim was blamed!!

Where are we taught these ideas?  Here’s a good idea where:



How do we stop this victim blaming?


This article depicts a common problem in our world…a problem that asks men to be “men”….no matter at what cost.

A young neighbor of mine was told by his mother and older brother that he must go fight…even through his please of not wanting to, they droned in the ideals of “manhood” into him: “you have to be tough”, “you can’t let people push you around”, “you have to be a man” , “you better not stop fighting till someone is one the ground, the one left standing wins”, “I’ll get you a reward for winning and for doing this.”

These and many more statements filled with derogatory comments alluding to the fact that if you’re not a man, you’re either a girl or a piece of a woman’s genitalia. As the words got more harsh, the words begin to be spit at the 11 year old.  In the end, he rode away on his bike ready for the fight that he didn’t want to go to with tears streaming out fo his eyes.

As this article says:  “This kind of manhood striving is driven by a contradiction: To be a real man in U.S. society, one must have or display power—the capacity to exert control over one’s self and the surrounding world—but the fact is that most men in a capitalist society have little or no power. For most men, striving for manhood status is an attempt to evade this contradiction, to escape the psychic pain it causes.”

The pain that it causes is pushed down into more violence and sexualization, so that these men feel no pain, and it is transferred to the violence or a insatiable sexual appetite to cover up the pain.

However, as the article continues to say…in the work place this is what is asked for: “Most American men know perfectly well the qualities they must display to be considered fully creditable as men: power, competitiveness, and toughness. This turns out to be enormously useful for generating profit. Just give men opportunities to display manhood in these ways and they’ll do things that add to the bottom line, even if it’s to their own detriment.”

In the end, “this what capitalism exploits, what it uses up, in the quest for profit is human bodies. This occurs in both the workplace and the marketplace. One way to enhance the exploitability of male bodies is to instill in them the desire to be men. The trick is to make feelings of self-worth contingent on the ability to display the qualities culturally defined as signs of being a real man.”

Being a real man and being a good man is most important…and the article goes on to show that we are not creating “good men”, we are creating this testosterone drunk view of what a man should be, based on archaic social structures of societies like Sparta and Ancient Greece.

This view of a “real man” is propagated even further through reality TV which shows and depicts what kids and young adults see as “real” people. If they are real people, they are famous, they are rich, they can do anything they want – that is how to be.

So in the end…this article asks us to decide whether this view of a real man is helping our society or simply destroying it?:



A young girl watched many atrocities that we will never see.

She wrote a beautiful essay on the destruction of women in her country.

She won the junior Nobel prize for her essay.

She was hailed as the voice of women world wide crying out for equality and justice.

She rode to school on a bus.

Her bus was boarded, she was singled out as the girl who wrote the paper, and shot in her head and neck.

She died.

She was 14.

Her name was Malala Yousafzai!

We must remember how close we are to her fate and the fate of the female world she was ripped from.

We must remember the atrocities and inequality that is felt throughout the world and through out our country toward women.

We must remember that the abusers are not far from these men who shot this young lady.

We must remember that if a 14 year old girl can stand up for women’s rights full knowing the danger she is in, then there is no excuse for any of us not to stand up and do something to end this violence toward women.

Today…we do something!

What are you doing?


The above link is to a video that explains why ant-birth control is such a violent and disrespectful idea.

There is a book called Moll Flanders by Daniel Defoe. Modern readers have been very harsh about the book calling the woman a “slut” and her constant baby making and ending in debtors prison as an example of an unfit woman.

However, in a world where a woman’s only worth is her ability to keep house, provide sex, and be a baby maker…..Moll Flanders had very little opportunities. In order to live in such a society, she had to live by the only means she had available to her – MEN. A woman could not get a job, a house, money, etc without men. So she connected herself with men in order to continue living an honorable and lady-like life. Each man expected her to have sex with him whenever he wanted it, but the resultant child was always a nuisance to both Moll and the Suitor gentleman. Even when she eventually had enough money, her children still had claims to her life and her world….even though she never knew the children that were taken from her because she couldn’t afford them.

This sounds despicable…but it was her only choice and it was the early 1800’s in England.

Flash forward to today…a woman may get a job, go to college, and even marry who she decides.  However, a woman with a child is a woman with a problem for many companies. Hire a woman with a child and you have to think about whether she is going to miss work because of said child, if she’s going to want more money because of the child, if she gets pregnant you will lose an employee for 3-6 months, and that’s if she decides to come back to work after the child.  This becomes a very big “problem” for many employers, and an all too real reality for women.

When a woman is planning her life, she must take these ideas into consideration. Whether we want to admit it or not, sex is a normal and healthy part of life which results in a child. When two adults come together to have sex…they must both be thinking about having a child. Yeah right!  That’s not true reality. That’s a reality born out of a different era and different ideal…if it ever existed outside of the fairytales in the first place.

No, the owness falls on the woman, because it’s the woman’s life that will be changed, disrupted, and changed forever.  It’s the woman who will be passed up for the jobs she wants. It’s the woman who will have to figure out how she’s going to deal with a child in college. It’s the woman who will be passed over for promotions, for opportunities, and for the multiple rungs up the ladder.

By taking away a woman’s right to think about this…we take women out of the work force.

We take women out of the world….in essence, we segregate the majority of the population while the other half still will pressure women into having sex with them.

This is another form of abuse towards women by the hands of the government.

Opt 4 ending the abuse against women.

Opt 4 gender equality which promotes real equality.

Op4 saying yes to women having a choice in their own life.

Opt 4 the government to stop putting their hands in women’s lives.


Stand for respect

What do you stand for?

You stand for dinner.

You stand for school.

You stand for walking.

But that’s the literal meaning. What about your stance on what is right and wrong? What do you stand for in that case?

Stand 4 respect project asks just that!

It all comes down to preparing the future to no redo, react, and make the same mistakes all the previous generations have made.

“Rather than repairing the damage later on, parents/caregivers, teachers and communities can help equip young people to develop healthy relationships throughout their life.” ~ Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, 2012.

Verizon has created a new program asking everyone to stand up against teen dating violence.

But don’t just stand up…stand with the new generation.

Stand with the new hope for the world.

Stand with the teens that are currently going through this mess right now!

As they state: Teen Dating Violence is preventable. And adults who care for kids—parents, teachers, mentors, youth leaders, administrators, ministers, coaches, grandparents, godparents, kinfolk, all of us—are in positions that enable us to get in front of this problem. The kids that we love are guided by our example and we are mostly in charge of the homes, classrooms, hallways, clubs, locker rooms, and congregations that they occupy. By working together, we can use our knowledge, partnerships, resources and determination to ensure that the spaces that our kids occupy are safe, and to establish respectful relationships as the expected norm. The Indiana teens featured in this site came together for this purpose—to tell adults about the impact that teen dating violence (TDV) has in their lives and to ask us to take a stand with them to end it. This is what our kids deserve.

So I ask you:

Do you stand for respect?

Do you stand for healthy relationships?

Do you stand for ending teen dating abuse?

Do stand for making the world a better place?

Opt 4 all of these things in our lives!


Bullying is horrible!

How do you feel about bullying?

You can now make it public!


Join the Stop Bullying Video Challenge to help prevent and end bullying in schools and communities.

Calling all people ages 13-18,

You are invited to make an anti-bullying video.

The focus should be on how youth can be more than a bystander, rather than a video that solely explains why bullying is wrong

Grab your Iphones.

Grab your webcams.

Grab your video cameras.

Grab the video maker in your phone

Now is the time to step up and win!

The grandprize winner will receive a $2,000 cash prize and will be featured on the www.stopbullying.gov website.

Two videos will receive honorable mention, a $500 cash prize and will be featured on the www.stopbullying.gov website.

Bullying can affect everyone- those who are bullied, those who bully, and those who witness bullying. The Federal Partners for Bullying Prevention is a workgroup comprised of 9 departments, with 34 offices within those 9 departments. The Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA) and the Federal Partners are launching this video challenge to help prevent and end bullying in schools and communities across the nation.

Now is the time to create a video!

Post your video here as well and I’d be happy to put it on the site!

Nonviolence Now!

The idea of nonviolence is really quite simple….don’t use violence.  Done…Yeah! Problem solved!

The idea of stopping domestic violence is easy, stop hurting the people you love. Done…yeah! Problem solved.

So in order to do this we just tell people don’t be violent, they’ll listen of course, and we go home happy. The world lives in peace, and everything becomes better. Wash you hands and your job is done.

In order to end Domestic violence we just tell every person who is dating, don’t hurt the other person. they agree and promise to do it. Everyone loves the way they live and the world becomes a better place. Domestic violence stops right at that moment.

How easy this sounds…but it doesn’t work this way.  Why?  because the problem is actually baked into our national, cultural, and developmental existence.  See the 6 part series of what promotes violecne and gender inequality.

Peace and Nonviolence is the result…not the way.

The way to nonviolence is simple:



We must accept everyone for who they are right now, and understand that everything they know and do are from things they were taught.

We, no matter who you are, are socialized to be the people we are by those we grew up with and lived around.  Everything we have ever done in our life, there were others that reinforced the correctness of our actions. therefore, the person who stands in front of you is the creation of hundreds of minutes of acceptance and teaching.

That person, no matter who they are or what they are doing, are doing that because they have been created to do so.

When you accept someone for who they are, and then understand why they are that way……ONLY THEN.…can we begin the process of nonviolence and eventually peace.

An innovative professor, doctor, and author Leo Buscaglia stated that, when we can look past the person and see the humanness in them, we can find that we love all people no matter who they are or what they do.

Humanness is that part of them that is truly human, that part that is not created by a social norm or idea, that part that is not trying to prove something, that part that is truly human and looking for answers to those ever present questions: What is the meaning of my life? How can i be happy?  These are two questions that we must continually ask ourselves, and these questions are the ones we answer with every action of our lives.

At the moment of acceptance and understanding, we see the real person. When we see the real person…we do not see anything but a person looking to be happy and doing the best that they can to achieve that.

Then we may either show them a better way, educate them, or move allowing them to continue searching. if we all took this stand, we could decrease violence insurmountable!

That is how we can end violence and end domestic violence.  Educate all children to see everyone as a human being, as a person, as a person just the same as everyone else…looking for happiness.

Then we educate all children to see the world as a world of acceptance and understanding rather than a world of expectations and promises.

In the end, if a person sees a person’s human side and understands them, it makes sense they will treat them with kindness, respect, and strive to help the other person. For it is obvious, the more you try to help others, the more you help yourself.


REAL Manhood!

Being male is a matter of birth, being a man is a matter of age, but being a Gentleman is a matter of choice.


Listen to understand, then speak with love – Advice from a father to a son.


REAL men protect and nurture children…Because they do!

Real men wear pink. Because it’s just a color. Because it shows our support for Breast Cancer. Because we can, and we do!


A video posted by Engaging men in gender equality.  Please watch the whole thing…the 1st part is the wrong view…and by showing the wrong view…we find what real men are and are suppose to be.

Real men don’t hit women. Simply – BECAUSE THEY DONT! Anything else is not acceptable and it is up to every male and female to stand up to those who do!

Real men don’t rape…because they don’t. This is one of the most vile dispicable acts that can be done to a person or by a person, and it will not and can not be accepted. EVEN if you’re a comedian like Daniel Tosh. Boycott Danile Tosh, tosh.o for he sees Rape as funny!

A real man is not hard to define.  A real man is respectful, happy, kind, and helps others. A real man uses his strength to control himself and protect others.







So what do you do on International Mandela Day?

It’s quite simple –  Mr Mandela gave 67 years of his life fighting for the rights of humanity. All we are asking is that everyone gives 67 minutes of their time, whether it’s supporting your chosen charity or serving your local community.

Mandela Day is a call to action for individuals – for people everywhere – to take responsibility for changing the world into a better place, one small step at a time, just as Mr Mandela did.

According to the website: The overarching objective of Mandela Day is to inspire individuals to take action to help change the world for the better, and in doing so build a global movement for good. Ultimately it seeks to empower communities everywhere. “Take Action; Inspire Change; Make Every Day a Mandela Day.”

for those of you who don’t know who Nelson Mandela is, here is a quick comment of why we need to celebrate and embody this man as a hero and an agent of change:


Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela was born in Transkei, South Africa on July 18, 1918. resistance against the ruling National Party’s apartheid policies after 1948. On June 12, 1964, eight of the accused, including Mandela, were sentenced to life imprisonment. From 1964 to 1982, he was incarcerated at Robben Island Prison, off Cape Town; thereafter, he was at Pollsmoor Prison, nearby on the mainland.

Why was he jailed for all of those years…because he tried to make his country a better place. He wanted to end apartheid…..government mandated segregation and devaluing of Natural citizens, particularly the Black Africans.

A group of white people came in and decided to take over South Africa (if it wasn’t for Nelson Mandela and people like him they would have succeeded in taking over the entire continent). They instilled laws banning Blacks (natural africans) and begin a military rule that was racist and horrible.  Mandela worked to improve his people and his country as well as the rest of the world.

During his years in prison, Nelson Mandela’s reputation grew steadily. He was widely accepted as the most significant black leader in South Africa and became a potent symbol of resistance as the anti-apartheid movement gathered strength. He consistently refused to compromise his political position to obtain his freedom.

Nelson Mandela was released on February 11, 1990. After his release, he plunged himself wholeheartedly into his life’s work, striving to attain the goals he and others had set out almost four decades earlier. In 1991, at the first national conference of the ANC held inside South Africa after the organization had been banned in 1960, Mandela was elected President of the ANC while his lifelong friend and colleague, Oliver Tambo, became the organization’s National Chairperson.

Because of this, on this day and every July 18th, spend 67 minutes of your time making the world a better place.

Write calls to order on your facebook.

Write letters to end injustice.

Stand out in front of places that corrupt and destroy people with sign asking them to stop.

Do something, do anything to end the injustice and destruction of the world.

That is how and why we celebrate this great day.


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