I can’t believe this is still an issue.

Ask any middle schooler, there’s even some elementary schoolers, that will tell you that a “bitch” is a female dog.  That means every time we utter this word, this phrase…we are associating a woman with an animal. How degrading.

Women are not animals….they are human beings. (Yes, I know we can argue the fact that human beings are animals…but let’s not please.)

A person who has the ability to create life….is considered lower than human? Really?

NO!  This must stop.  We need to stop using it in a casual tone. We need stop using it as a normal reality. We need to stop using it as an adjective for women. We need to stop using it period!

If we see women as below human, we see them as objects, property, and things. When this happens, we will see an increase in violence toward women, a display of women as merely body parts to be used, and a disregard for women as equal to men. WAIT!  It’s already here. Even more reason to stop using the word. This word just goes on to reinforce this idea.

This reinforcement…creates violence. This reinforcement creates…abuse. We must end this!

I remember as a child I was watching a TV show…and a woman walked into a room and said: “You bitch.” my mouth, my mother’s mouth, and my step dad’s mouth dropped! That word had never been uttered on TV. That show now is seen as a landmark/gateway to an acceptance of this word as a normal name for women. Now, you can hear it everywhere…even women who identify it as themselves with pride. That is scary!  That is seeing yourself as below human….wow, no wonder there are so many young women with such low self esteem. With the acceptance of this word and women’s magazines telling you you’re constantly fat and need improvement…I’m surprised that women are even lifting their head high enough to think they can accomplish anything.

Now, there are cultures in our country that have adopted it as part of their natural vernacular. Uggh!  What has this done?  It has legitimized the word, and legitimized the degradation of woemn that the word promotes. Not only that, these cultures haven’t even set up a pure and true definition for the word. so, depending on how it’s used, when its used, etc…it can be seen as all sorts of things. Also, when the adults use this word, the kids (who don’t understand the correct usage either) think it’s fine….and where do we end up then?

This song illustrates this perfectly (lyrics are below the video…if you want to follow along), to quote the chorus:

Bitch is bad.

Woman is good .

Lady is better. They are misunderstood.

Lyrics: Lupe Fiasco
I say bitch bad, woman good, lady better
Hey, hey, hey, hey

[Verse 1]
Now imagine there’s a shawty, maybe five maybe four
Ridin’ ’round with his mama listening to the radio
And a song comes on and a not far off from being born
Doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong
Now I ain’t trying to make it too complex
But let’s just say shawty has an undeveloped context
About the perception of women these days
His mama sings along and this what she says
“Niggas I’m a bad bitch, and I’m bad bitch
far above average”
And maybe other rhyming words like cabbage and savage
And baby carriage and other things that match it
Couple of things that are happenin’ here
First he’s relatin’ the word “bitch” with his mama, comma
And because she’s relatin’ to herself, his most important source of help,
And mental health, he may skew respect for dishonor

Bitch bad, woman good
Lady better, they misunderstood
(I’m killin’ these bitches)
Uh, tell ’em
Bitch bad, woman good
Lady better, they misunderstood
They misunderstood
(I’m killin’ these bitches)

[Verse 2]
Yeah, now imagine a group of little girls nine through twelve
On the internet watchin’ videos listenin’ to songs by themselves
It doesn’t really matter if they have parental clearance
They understand the internet better than their parents
Now being the interent, the content’s probably uncensored
They’re young, so they’re maleable and probably unmentored
A complicated combination, maybe with no relevance
Until that intelligence meets their favorite singer’s preference
“Bad bitches, bad bitches, bad bitches
That’s all I want and all I like in life is bad bitches, bad bitches”
Now let’s say that they less concerned with him
And more with the video girl acquiescent to his whims
Ah, the plot thickens
High heels, long hair, fat booty, slim
Reality check, I’m not trippin’
They don’t see a paid actress, just what makes a bad bitch


[Verse 3]
Disclaimer: This rhymer, Lupe’s not usin’ bitch as a lesson
But as a psychological weapon
To set in your mind and really mess with your conceptions
Discretions, reflections, it’s clever misdirection
Cause, while I was rappin’ they was growin’ up fast
Nobody stepped in to ever slow ’em up, gasp
Sure enough, in this little world
The little boy meets one of those little girls
And he thinks she a bad bitch and she thinks she a bad bitch
He thinks disrespectfully, she thinks of that sexually
She got the wrong idea, he don’t wanna fuck her
He thinks she’s bad at being a bitch like his mother
Momma never dress like that, come out the house, hot mess like that
Ass, titties, dress like that
All out to impress like that
Just like that, you see the fruit of the confusion
He caught in a reality, she caught in an illusion
Bad mean good to her, she really nice and smart
But bad mean bad to him, bitch don’t play your part
But bitch still bad to her if you say it the wrong way
But she think she a bitch, what a double entendre


Bitch bad, woman good
Lady better, they misunderstood
You’re misunderstood
Bitch bad, woman good
Lady better, greatest motherhood