I walked out to get the paper the other morning and as I looked around I realized I have lived here for 3 years and I don’t know any of these people walking around their yards. When I mentioned this to a friend of mine they said, Why would I want to know them. My life is just fine without them.”

Recently, I read about a woman who had died in her house. The paramedics said she fell and broke her hip and probably died of thirst since she couldn’t move, but she had been laying there for about 2-3 months. .  The person who found her was the Electric person who was there to turn off her electric because it hadn’t been paid for a couple of months.

Unfortunately, this is the world we live in. But what does this have to do with preventing domestic violence?

The number one way you can prevent domestic abuse is to say something, do something, and help the victim.

Imagine – you’re in the middle of this kind of horrible abuse (I’m not going to describe it, no doubt you have the ability to imagine what this abuse is like.) and you look out the window and nobody is helping you. They walk past your house every day looking at the windows you look out of, but they do nothing. You think: They must hear the yelling. They must hear the breaking glass and slamming doors. They must know.

When you begin thinking like this, you are convinced that everyone knows that this is going on, and they aren’t helping you. OR You believe nobody knows, and they can’t help you because your abuser has you convinced of this.

This is a very scary reality for many people. This is a reality for someone right now!

They feel alone, isolated, and feel they have nowhere they can turn. even though a person who lives by them drives to a domestic violence outreach center every day, they feel they have no one who can help them.

It doesn’t have to be this way!

The simple act of meeting your neighbors. Saying hi and starting a conversation, this simple act can change so much.

The simple idea of doing a good deed for a neighbor and then asking them how things are, can change the way someone lives the rest of their life. Now, we won’t go on about how we need to help and become a community…but this is essential if we are going to end domestic violence!

Abusers rely on anonymity and scare tactics. They rely on the fact that only their view and spin on the world is the truth. They rely on fear…and the best way to overcome fear is through the light of knowledge and togetherness.

As soon as a person realizes that there are many eyes upon them, they change the way they act. The more you get to know your neighbors, the more you can help them.

What if the person who lives down the block is a victim right now?

Opt 4 knowing your neighbors.

Opt 4 helping out your neighbors.

Opt 4 creating a community

Remember – It’s not her problem, it is OUR Problem.