All the people who have ever gotten into the work of preventing domestic violence, sexual violence, or even just violence in general began somewhere.

Most people began by reading a book or multiple books.

Here is a list of books that multiple advocates throughout the state of Florida have chosen as great books to read and learn about why preventing and ultimately ending this violence is so important. Books that have opened their  eyes pulled us deeper into this movement and these jobs we do.

The more we talk about this the more books that arrive on people minds….so no doubt this will be an ongoing post.

The books:

Men in Feminism  by Alice Jardin and Paul Smith

The first substantial attempt to produce a dialogue between feminists and their male allies, this collection of essays assesses the benefits or disadvantages of male participation in feminism.






Nonviolent Communication

A book on how we can begin to speak in a nonviolent way


The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference by Malcolm Gladwell.

This is a great tool for understanding and helping others to understand social change, how it works, and why it happens.

Dragonslippers: This is What an Abusive Relationship Looks Like by Rosalind B. Penfold.

This book is one woman’s diary that she wrote/drew in cartoon format, of her experiences of being in, and getting out of, an abusive relationship.

The Toughest Cowboy: by John Frank

This is a children’s book about overcoming gender stereotypes.

Speak:by Laurie Halse Anderson

A young adult novel about dealing with the aftereffects of a trauma which a girl goes through the summer before her freshman year in high school.  She is a voluntary mute,  and we don’t find out until the end that she has been raped.

Making Social Worlds:by W. Barnett Pearce

A nonfiction book by one of the best authors and thinkers on community peace and empowerment.  It helps us understand how we create our own social worlds and relationships with others, and we need to take responsibility for creating good ones.

The Missing Piece and The Missing Piece Meets the Big O  by Shel Silverstein-


Two wonderful books talking about relationships and codependency. It also looks at the problems of power and control and being able to stand on your own, Understanding you do not need a relationship…but deciding to choose one.

The Four Agreements byDon Miguel Ruiz:

The many ideas and thoughts of what love is and what love definitely isn’t. 1 of the four agreements is to be impeccable with your word (Not using or accepting verbal abuse) Another is to not take things personally (the abuser is not abusive because of the victim)

 The LOVE book – By Leo Buscuglia

A book that changes the way we see humans, ourselves, and everyone we’ve ever said “I love you” to. A book that looks into what love is, and how loving each-other and ourselves is so important.

The 5 Love Languages-by Gary Chapmen:

I use this to speak of abuse; If your love language is words of affirmation then harmful words (verbal Abuse) would be devastating

This is the 1st installment of the many books that people have been reading to realize why it’s so important to do this work and become part of the solution rather than the problem.