Everything in this world is based on relationships.

How we see those relationships, will create how we see the world. This is why violence prevention or nonviolence promotion is so important in the education of our children. This obviously starts from the home.

When we speak of the many interdependency of the world, and the many relationships that are formed, used, lived around and with…i often come to think of what is called the “Yin-Yang” symbol.

This Symbol(Yin-Yang) represents the ancient Chinese understanding of how things work. The outer circle represents “everything”, while the black and white shapes within the circle represent the interaction of two energies, called “yin” (black) and “yang” (white), which cause everything to happen. They are not completely black or white, just as things in life are not completely black or white, and they cannot exist without each other. You will notice that in Yang (represented by the white tadpole) lies the seed of Yin (represented by the black dot) and vice-versa. In addition Yin and Yang are cyclical. In the symbol you can see that Yang grows but at its height, Yin emerge. Then Yin grows and at its height Yang appears and the cycle repeats itself. Actually another way to look at Yin and Yang is contraction and expansion!

While “yin” would be dark, passive, downward, cold, contracting, and weak, “yang” would be bright, active, upward, hot, expanding, and strong. The shape of the yin and yang sections of the symbol, actually gives you a sense of the continual movement of these two energies, yin to yang and yang to yin, causing everything to happen: just as things expand and contract, and temperature

changes from hot to cold.

From this definition we see that these are really not the opposites of each other, but a dependent reality that we all live in.

These are the relationships we all live in on a day-to-day basis. The parent/child relationship, the teacher/student relationship (and the understanding that that relationships is also seen both ways- student/teacher ), the friend/friend relationship, the boss/coworker relationship, the female friend and male friend relationship, the boyfriend/girlfriend relationships, the girlfriend/girlfriend relationship, the boyfriend/boyfriend relationship are all relationships that we must and have to deal with on a day-to-day basis.

We must understand that within all relationships, like the yin-yang symbol, each side compliment the other.

One side has strengths where the other has weaknesses, and the other has weaknesses where the other has strengths. This constant complimentary abilities is what forms the full circle. This full circle is the connection between all people. We all can help others as well as those others can help us.

Interesting enough, violence is not part of this!

Violence is not part of yin and yang.

Violence does not come together with perfect cohesion as the yin yang do.  Violence tears, rips, attacks, destroys, and eliminates. This would never happen to something that is in harmony with the other. This ripping and destruction would not happen when something is in balance.

If violence is happening, there is an imbalance. When there is an imbalance, there is no cohesion. Without  a balance, there is only power and control. When there is no yin-yang, there is no peace, no serenity, no happiness.

Let us learn from this symbol all we can.  Let us begin to see all of our relationships in a way that balances and strengthens each other.

A true relationship is pure, peaceful, balanced, loving, and each person upholds and strengthens the other.