What is a healthy relationship?

All of our relationships should be healthy, but what is that?  Many people mistakenly think that a healthy relationship is merely the opposite of abuse. If it’s not abusive, it’s healthy.

Sadly, many of us have no model for a healthy relationship, so we don’t know what one looks like and we’re left to flounder in the sea of relationship nightmares.

Here is a glimmer of hope – These are the signs of a healthy relationship.

  • Supports your relationship with yours and their friends and family.
  • Maintains their own friends, and wants you to hang out with your friends too.
  • Asks and values your opinion
  • You can express your opinions, ideas, and dreams and do not feel threatened.
  • Talks and listens to you. (ACTUALLY LISTENS!!!)
  • Accepts responsibility for their behavior, feelings, and thoughts
  • Apologizes when they’re wrong, and accepts your apology when you’re wrong.
  • Considers the relationship a partnership.
  • Shares in the decision-making and wants you to share.
  • Expects each person to deal with their own money, and doesn’t use money to get their way.
  • Treats other people and animals with respect. (Especially their parents, elders, and servers)
  • Is not upset about your relationship with someone of the opposite or same-sex.
  • Trusts you and expects to be trusted.
  • Encourages you in your goals and dreams.
  • Points out the positive in your appearance, your actions, and your ideas.
  • You feel safe with.
  • Resolves conflict without resorting to violence or put downs.
  • Tries to understand how you feel.
  • Accepts all aspects of who you are.
  • Understands that people need some time alone to be with themselves, their family, or friends.
  • Text you only when you respond or it is appropriate to text. Does not ask for nude pics.
  • Understands NO, and variation of the word,  still means No

Post this checklist on your Facebook page. Ask your friends if their relationship is healthy.

How healthy is your relationship?

The more people who know what a healthy relationship is, the less abuse there will be.

Happy dating…

 

 

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